“Where there is pain, there will be healing. Where there is struggle, there will be growth. Where there is grief, there will be renewal—where there is acceptance, there will be peace.”
I have sat with this question for many years. I truly believe that I had no control over what was unfolding in front of me. What I learned over the years is that I may not be able to change reality, but I can certainly change my experience. I learned by changing my attitudes, beliefs, and thoughts attached to reality, I can change the experience, and by changing the experience, I had changed the outcome, my reality.
“Personal reality is not what our physical eyes show our rational mind, but what our creative mind creates for our eyes to see. We are the result of our mind. Whatever I believe, I am.” -Courageous Butterfly
"Everything kept in the dark, stays unresolved. Everything that is brought to the light, becomes accessible, visible and ready to be resolved." -Courageous Butterfly.
I am about to enter into a new chapter in my life. I want to say to my Self, don't be afraid. Trust in your gut feelings. Life is good. Breathe each step. Breathe each moment. Move through it with confidence and trust in your heart. You have everything you need to move forward with your dream. You are good enough. You can do this. I know you can. You are ready. Think about the distance you have already walked on this earth. Let each breath guide you and remind you of your strengths, power and capacity to move mountains. You can reach the peak and become whatever your devoted heart desires.
It's time to dare greatly my friend!
Let go of all fears, and let your divine-Self be the writer of your next chapter.
Don't hold back from expressing LOVE because you are afraid of being rejected, or of seeming needy or weak. The needy thing was one of my biggest self-doubts. I thought that if I love too much or had the need to feel loved, it was because I was too needy and insecure. Loving fully is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of bravery. Loving with your whole heart takes a lot of courage, because we are exposing who we really are to the whole world, and we are taking a chance on being hurt.
I was taught in some point in my life that being too loving or affectionate, was a sign of weakness, and that it was not necessary for happiness or survival. It takes a lot of courage to love fully and completely; to say I love you to someone who is uncomfortable with the words, and who would probably not say it back.
For some reason, these three little words I love you makes people feel very uncomfortable. I find it so very sad that for some of us, it's easier to say, I hate you, then I love you.
In my thirties, I held back my love for the fear of being too needy, and then I allowed myself to love a little. I soon realized that loving a little, was also feeling a little. I was not being true to myself. I was not fully living my life. I felt small. As soon as I made the decision to love fully and completely something amazing happened. I became more and more of who I really am. I found my true purpose, the meaning of my life. I opened my heart to God and heard whispers. I was ready to be me; the real me. I opened the doors to my own yoga studio, a place where I can share my heart and thoughts. I published my first book which helped me to embrace my story. My book enables me to connect with the world and becoming a voice of hope for many who had similar challenges. I am now moving forward with my dream, as I really want to participate in making a difference. I am enrolling into a two-year spiritual psychotherapy program to continue with my purpose, which is to help others to recognize their own power, potential and inner peace.
Loving fearlessly, living your life fully is the most courageous thing we can do, because we are allowing ourselves to be vulnerable and real. Don't let the fear of exposing your insecurity, or the fear of being hurt, or the fear of rejection to hold you back. Love with your whole heart, love what you do, love yourself, love your neighbour, and see the change you are creating not only in your own life, but all around you. Begin to love now. When you choose to express, share, give, and receive LOVE, life will support you in every possible way, and you will no longer feel separated. This reality begins within us and then spread out into the world. It will transform how you feel inside, how you see life, how you relate to others and how you live your life. But first you have to make the conscious decision to live in your heart.
Be as loving as possible,
Love & Light
Failure is simply a passage, a stepping stone, not a place to stay.
Failure is our teacher, a guidance to getting one step closer to our dreams.
Failure is not a sign of defeat, nor a sign of weakness.
It is a sign of courage, devotion and willingness of the heart - the Higher-Self, our true Self.
Failure is part of the whole process, God's perfect plan.
I trust in that!
Every stepping stone, every step back brought us to where we are today. If it hadn’t been for my struggles and new understandings I wouldn't be who I am today.
Peace begins within me first.
There can’t be peace in my world until I make peace with myself.
Sit in silence for a few minutes everyday,
If you are too busy,
Then try to sit in stillness for an hour.
If I am going to make a difference in the world, I have to start with myself.
I am being the peace that I dream to see in the world.
- Courageous Butterfly
When things go out of hands, please God remind me that I am enough,
and that what truly matters most in the end is LOVE.
- Courageous Butterfly
Someone asked me, “What is your biggest regret Nancy?” Without thinking about it, my heart sank into sorrow, and right there, I wanted to burst out crying. I never thought that I would have regrets, since I try very much to live my life in the present. But if I am honest here, when the question was asked, my mind moved back into my early thirties, and I felt regret.
Although I know I did the best I could, with what I knew at the time, I still wish I knew better then. I wish I have learned those hard lessons before having children, so I could have reacted and responded with more trust and understanding during their young life. But I didn’t. And I am now living my deepest fear and the consequences of my reactions.
All I can do now is to ask for forgiveness not only to the people I offended, but to myself.
I know that things happen for a reason, and that in every struggle, there is an opportunity for growth. I am learning to accept “what is”, things as they are, and also things I cannot change. What a challenge that is, this lesson is one of the longest and hardest journeys of my life.
When my son Jessy passed away I thought that nothing in the world could hurt me that bad. God was I wrong. This morning I made one of the most difficult decisions of my life. As I am going through the process, I am letting the pain in. I am allowing it to be. This will help me to overcome my sorrow and teach me what I need to know.
I am sharing with you my story to ease my pain, to unload my thoughts, as I strongly believe we are here to help and connect with one another. I hope that if you are going through a difficult time, you will find comfort knowing that you are not alone, my heart is with you.
and I know that this too will pass.
One day my soul screamed... Enough! I was in so much pain. At the age of 37 I hit rock bottom, and my entire world shifted. I found myself in a nightmare, battling depression. It was a long journey to recovery. Too many people think that depression in not a real illness. Too many people think that mental illness can be cured with happy thoughts and visualization. Depression is a real thing. It is devastating, overwhelmingly painful and overpowering. People who suffer from depression need professional help to get through it. There is no shame to ask for support or help. Please don't wait. So many people are afraid to admit to suffering from depression but it is nothing to be ashamed of, it is as real as any disease and should be treated as such. Let's talk!
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My Name is Nancy Forbes. Owner of Emerging Butterflies Yoga Studio. Author of Courageous Butterfly